As regular readers of this column will know by now, my work is about helping people make their lives better. That’s why some readers will find this article irritating in the extreme. But I make no apology…
That’s because you don’t need me or anyone else to tell you how you should live your life or what you need in order to be happy. All you need is to listen to what the voice of your heart tells you, and follow it unswervingly. As a life coach and a human being it’s my duty to throw the responsibility for how your life will be lived right back onto you.
A new client asked me for advice recently and I commented, “never listen to anyone else’s advice, especially not my advice. By all means listen carefully to other people’s feedback and input and put that in the mix, as it were. Then listen to your own advice, the voice of your heart, and follow that.”
The point is, if your goal is happiness, which of course means different things to different people, it has to come from within. No one else can live your life for you. And no-one else’s truth is true for you. This is actually a positive because everything you need you already have, everything you need to know you already know, and everything you need to do you already know how to do!
By a process of elimination, if you are not entirely happy with your life something must be stopping you from doing the things you need to do in order to be happy. There has to be some sort of resistance to looking inside and asking those questions of yourself, “who am I, what do I need, what do I love?”
Ask yourself, has your resistance done you any good so far, and if not are you ready to drop it? Have you suffered enough, are you tired of misery and sorrow, will you give up playing the role of victim? Will you push the river forever? Do you yearn to feel fulfilled? Do you wish you had meaning and purpose in your life?
All I can tell you from my own experience, and that of many of my clients, is that the only way to feel fulfilled is to pursue a path that is truly meaningful to you, and it might take a great deal of introspection and courage to find out what that path is, and to follow it.
Excuses never work. If you were to say, “I’d love to do that but I could never earn a living from it,” or “I really want to do this but I haven’t got the training,” the remedy is obvious. Do what you love while you earn a living from something else for the time being. Go to wherever you have to go to get the training. If you take that sort of approach, your life will open up to may wonderful possibilities. Then it’s up to you to reach for the golden apple.
If you are agonizing over this, by all means contact me. I just might be able to help, or at least point you in the right direction.